The right vs silence.

I think you people might or might have not noticed that I haven’t written anything in months that some of the posts I wrote from previous time [haha idk whats going on with my verbiage…see] are “protected”. Sounds mysterious huh…well they aren’t. I have decided to protect the posts that revolve around what I am “upto” and my “daily happenings”. But, I will keep my other posts public…you know, like the ones that are helpful to others or the kinds that can potentially make a change in the lives of others, even if they have a silly lesson to it or if they make you laugh [because I am that funny. no]. I have left some of my “best” work public as well [rated on the “comment and liking” count of viewers and on every time I LOL whilst reading them myself]. Anyway, that was just a small update on how I will be managing this blog from now on till the end of its existence [managing…lol].

Now to the good stuff. So for a good chunk of this year, my life has been…annoying. But, Alhumdulilah, I have reached the end of it. OMG, its almost 2014!!! [I actually just realized hah]. BTW, I will be having a ‘Farewell 2014’ post up, which yes, will be protected. And, if you people are dying [GOD forbid] to read it, send me an email and I will give you the password [but first I dare you to figure it out yourself]. So, about this post, which is being written right now this very second, well not for you of course, ah, k im done. its not really about my life entirely. It is about you…us…everyone who thinks they are “doing the right thing” or wants to. Its about that good person in you that is trying to make you a better person and trying to help those around you to be better people, no matter how hard it is.

I know that its hard to stop something that is wrong and to straighten things out. But, when it is, you should go for it, because it does really matter at the end…you know, like when you have to stand there waiting to be judged with your book in your hand [the Right hand InShaAllah]. Wow, thats scary. The harder it is to stop the wrong, the more reward [If God wills]. There have been instances where I had to be that person who tells a friend, a sibling, a special person, or even my parents that what they are doing is wrong or that they should do something other than that. Its really hard. It hurts when these people then get annoyed at you for saying such things and they make you feel guilty of how you are a “goody two-shoes” [I never understood that analogy, but it still hurts…weird]. Then all those moments and memories stir past you and you feel like a hypocrite and what not…ahhhhhh. At the end of the day, you know that God knew your intentions and no matter how mad or annoyed those people get at you, you did the right thing.

I am writing this stuff because in the past year, I had a friend who I thought was one way and who I thought was this “person”, but turns out that the words did not match the actions. I mean even if something was done, I didn’t know. How am I supposed to know what was going on? I wanted and even now want something to happen or have continued, but the words of others don’t match yours that person’s. Idk who is right and who is lying. I have come to a point where I can no longer trust that friend…is it me that is wrong? I have no idea…I think its because nothing is being done. So, you can see why this is an issue…I do not stand for lying. Why, because it is wrong. And lying is a sin. So, no matter how good of a person someone trys to be, and if they still lie, they can not be a good person. So, coming back to the title of this post, don’t do drugs do the right thing and don’t be silent about the wrong. Try to stop it, make it right, even if you have to drop your pride and apologize to who ever got hurt because of the people you know who did/said wrong. In other words, don’t be a wuss.

Oh, and we made smores!

Honey graham crackers, vegan marshmallows (or Halal ones), Any chocolate. Heat in oven for God knows how long. Eat!

Honey gram crackers, vegan marshmallows (or Halal ones), Any chocolate. Heat in oven for God knows how long. Eat!

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Private and Confidential

There was a point in my life where I had to change a few of my posts to private because I had tracked down a stalker. But I think I scared him/her away LOL. Sorry if you are still here. Now everything on this blog is public. I always had issues with sharing my personal life with people, be it family, friends, teachers, you guys, people on my Facebook and Twitter…yea. I love being anonymous here because at least I can share my general thoughts that might have to do something with the real me, without anyone actually knowing who I am. It might confuse some people because they don’t know my past or present. I am  fine with that. The main reason I blog is to waste time write out what I am thinking about without expecting advice from people. I just want someone to listen sometimes, even if it is you, who I don’t even know. Sometimes i feel that bloggers are more real than the real people I know.

Problems with sharing things with certain types of people:

-Parent: I tried this actually and sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t. The problem with this is that parents do care, a lot, but they care too much. They will make a big deal about it because they care for you A LOT. If you don’t like their response, you should just keep quiet and ponder on why they answered in such a way. There is always a good reason because they care A WHOLE LOT. lol. And so this leads them to tell the older child…aka my nemesis sister [LOL a bit exaggerated]; this makes me uncomfortable.

-Friend: I don’t have any friends.

LOL joking. This here is also a problem…well, it kinda depends on what kind of a friend they are. If they are the opposite gender type of friend, they will think you are crazy. Don’t share your girl feelings with guys and viceversa. Biology makes it so that the other wont really understand what you are feeling. Of course there are exceptions, but to stay on the safe side…I would pass. Also, I am a girl [haha I know] and telling friends who are females doesn’t help. They’d just nod and agree with you, which isn’t a good thing because you are still stuck in the dilemma.

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Sometimes I need to be alone with a mug of chai.

-Relative: Don’t do it, even if they are your cousins, because your story will definitely reach other people. First, it will be transferred to their close cousins, then their mom’s, who are most probably your mom’s sister, and then your mom will know…. None the less before your mom knows it will reach every Raza.com member around the world.

-Sibling: Some of us have really close ties with our siblings or a particular one, so its easy to spill the beans (purposely) and share your issues. But then there are families like mine, where we cringe when one of us shares their inner thoughts. The environment that some cultures have created is so messed up. You can’t share anything personal with your siblings. It might be because the headline will reach the parents or because you might just be too embarrassed, since your dealing with serious critics. But we trust our siblings more than others; the good thing here is that what happens in the neutral family stays inside. This might be the second best option after the last one below.

-Blog: Its simple, but sometimes indirect. Its kinda risky though, since if someone catches on, they might be offended. You shouldn’t want to offend people. So, think, think, write, re-read, think, then publish.

-The one you can always trust is God.

#Truthis Ya’ll are just ignorant, son.

Sorry for the tempting who-ever-talks-like-this blog post title. Hash-tagging, or number signs in front of words without spaces, should be limited to twitter/tweets. The word ‘Ya’ll’ should never be used out side of the southern deserted areas, and is unacceptable within my hearing range. However, calling people ‘son’ is ok [LOL]. Moving on, I have actually heard many statements, questions, and sayings that are just dumb. People have to open up books or the internet and try to learn stuff, like why certain people do certain things…Yea, I am talking about the ignorant people who come in contact with Islam in some way or another.

Ignorance is not bliss. Its laziness, dumb, embarrassing, and you’re not being an active learner while living the life you were given. Life is not all fun and games…there are things  you have to look into. You were given a brain, so use it. Hmmm, there has to be a way not to sound as harsh as I do right now. Anyway, I have heard or saw people using such statements/words/questions concerning Islam without thinking:

1- “That thing is so pretty on you, but it must be very hard for your women.”: Its called a “Hijab” and is worn to protect the female’s beauty and modesty because in Islam, females are pearls that should be hidden and not be shown to the world so random people can drool over her [directing people with dirty minds]. Its a form of protection God has told females to hold for their own benefit. This way she can display her thoughts, ideas and actions before her beauty. Its an honor. Its not hard…its not oppression lol. I don’t understand how ‘liberation’ or ‘modernism’ is to take off all your clothes, & roam around half naked in front of everyone…then shouldn’t naked animals be the most advanced species? Some people just don’t get it. The point was, women in Islam are supposed to cover themselves (as did Mary (May God be pleased with her), mother of Jesus (May God be pleased with Him) and all the other modest women in history) so that they are liberated from the social pressures around them. DUH.

2- “That terrorist.”: terrorist – a radical who employs terror as a political weapon; usually organizes with other terrorists in small cells; often uses religion as a cover for terrorist activities. And the Arabic word salaam (سلام) (“peace”) has the same root as the word Islam., meaning submission to the One God. Total opposites; enough said. In Islam a person cannot take another’s life, let alone their own. Only God gives life and gives death.

3- “How can you believe in a God that discourages homosexuality?”: Warning, I know this may be a sensitive topic to some as displayed by society now-a-days, but I just have to say this. Its not real, or humane. Just cause society/media/fashion industry/celebs encourage such things, it doesn’t make them right…think about it logically. Even in a scientific sense, why would evolution turn to a point where it would just randomly make up a few kinks and stop its own process. Don’t attack me just yet, first watch this VIDEO. I know many of you have already made up your mind before you might click the video link…its whatever, if you want to remain in ignorance. Btw, you not supposed hate or dislike any type of people; people are people, you can’t not like them for their way of living life, Islam doesn’t teach that. I was talking about the act, not people.

4- “Why would you want to live your life following a certain way of life, when you can make up your own.”: And you are also arrogant and selfish. First, think about who gave you this life so you can live it…stop using it as your ‘own’, cause its not yours. You were put on this earth, given such favors for a reason. If someone were to give you something and you had to return it to them at the end, wouldn’t you treat that ‘borrowed’ possession as how they told you to?

Hopefully, everyone here still likes me LOLOL [now please follow me on twitter] . If you don’t, then i guess you don’t…its ok.

P.S. Ramadan ended a few days ago and Eid was awesome!

I made this vanilla cake with peanut butter icing for Eid! It was really tasty.

EID Mubarak to all you people celebrating it!!!! Hope you all had a great one…And to the general public, Happy-end-of-summer-2012! Hopefully we all utilized our summer the best way we could have, be it relaxing, learning and experiencing knew things, working, etc…I can’t wait to read what everyone did this summer. Peace out.

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Some issues we over came.

Fasts are going well, thank God. But the thing that bothers me is how every Ramadan, the first few days, my family makes a huge amount of food! But then we always learn that it just is too much and we should care for the people who don’t have food to even do Suhoor (eating before putting a fast, before sunrise) or to break their fast during iftar. May Allah give them food and blessings. Ameen. Alhumdulilah, now we have utilized our time and amount of food being prepared. Now we are just eating some fruits, dates, with water. Also, my mom sometimes makes a small amount of pakorays [Pakora: made with a flour batter with masalas (spices), onions, or potatoes, or whatever else fried in oil], just to have a ‘feel’ of Ramadan. Yea, we are Paki. [Then after prayer we eat dinner and stuff.]

Another issue…was that we used to have a sleep difficulties (minor) in the beginning, since the nights are so short this year. After breaking our fast, going to the Majjid for Taraweh (late night prayer) there is only but a few hours to sleep. Then we have to wake up for Suhoor…before sunrise prayer, the time when we eat food before putting a fast. Now-a-days, schools are closed and no classes for us siblings, so we don’t sleep until Suhoor. We usually read Quran, or pray, or read more about Islam. Then, after doing Suhoor and praying morning prayer of Fajr, we hit the sack. It worked for me so far. But as the nights get longer during this month of Ramadan, I think we will be sleeping until Suhoor. Oh who cares about my sleep cycle. I made banana peanut butter cookies today!

My banana and peanut butter cookies! [simple recipe…just Google it]

Everyone loved them…or maybe it was because they were fasting all day. lol

Spicy topic on Matrimonial

Spicy, because desi food is spicy. I know, ‘Har Har Har’. Ok, never mind that. Its not a spicy topic the way I am posting it, but it is interesting. Right? Anyway, I have already talked about how hard it is to find someone to get married to, especially if you are brown and live in the US. I failed at being people’s matchmaker btw [read this post]. I tried my best, but in my defense, you shouldn’t say you want to get married if you really don’t! This puts all sorts of pressure, confusion, embarrassment, and stress on the matchmaker aka Eva626. Not fair. At all.

So moving on. I had made my mind a while back that I wasn’t going to post on this topic, but then I did put it on my Organized List of Future Posts earlier. Also, because I stumbled upon someone’s tumblr. A ‘tumblr’ is a fascinating type of site actually…there is always something interesting. So the person, who calls himself ‘American Brother‘ recently had some ‘tumblr posts’ (I don’t know what the ‘tumblr people’ call it) about marriage. It was interesting and I liked it so I thought back about my decision about posting this post and I really had to.

It was this:

A MUSLIM MAN PROPOSED TO A MUSLIM WOMAN

  • MUSLIMAH: me? If I do not know how to sew, or cook, or iron..  How am I going to marry you?
  • MAN: Do you know how to pray? Do you worship Allah Subhana wa ta’ala without associating with anyone? Do you wear hijab? Are you afraid of Allah?.
  • MUSLIMAH: Yes, I pray every day, I wear hijab, I love allah and no one else, I give charity whenever I can and the one I fear is Allah Subhana wa taa’ala.
  • MAN: *smiling* That’s enough for me, I want you to be the half of my Deen, not my maid 🙂 ♥

I thought it was just brilliant. Thank you tumblr-er the American Brother. Oh yea, being the curious blogger that I am, I asked him if he was married…to find out check out his site http://americanbrother.tumblr.com/.

I am not done yet…I was going to rant on and on and on about how it isn’t fair how some people set out to pick a person to marry based on the other’s ‘bio data’. URG, nvm. By the way, in search for matrimony is not a spicy topic after all.