Not choosing a suitor

Hi readers, 

Here’s a topic that is more of self-help for my fellow gals, or a drop-dead shocker to all the aunti’s and old-controling-male-hags of the world. I used to write posts of love and marriage and how everything is so grand and blah blah blah bs.

Well, things change depending on circumstances and basically who you have chosen or who was chosen for you, and you being the best little goody two shoes of the household, agreed upon it. 

Ill just say it now: NEVER GO FOR A FOREIGN BORN BROWN MALE.

First off, you can already tell their lack of intelligence when they try to argue about the dumbest things like, oh so genetics isn’t a real thing or if cancer is real then how come people in the past never had it. All that nonsense that most people won’t have the energy to quarrel on. Like come on, try going to college first. Oh, and the best ones are those questions after you say the very normal words, “duration” or “convenience” followed by the true stupid questions “what do you mean, duration?”. Really? its a darn word…go look it up. 

Second, you’re living in this time era not the one of your zameen (land) in the 18th century. They’ll force you to be apart of their family…nothing is wrong with that except the word FORCE. No, you married that one person not the whole dang kandaan (family). They don’t take into account what type of person they are with, in terms of born and raised in a certain place, in a certain time.

Third, mentality at its finest. OLD. Today’s time and issues are different from way back then. Islam has made it so that people can accommodate on certain issues (not all but ones that take into account the place and time). Rulings and living, etc… Each has its place in life and should be followed. Stick to what you know is right and try NOT to compromise on things you know that are wrong. You might get in trouble with some things I’ve said here, so don’t listen to me for the most part (disclaimer). You’ll always be seen as the bad one, especially because of the cultural differences. Kill that culture if you don’t like it. It might kill you in the processes but so be it. Ha. I am already half way dead. 

Some advice, tell them to deal with it or leave. Of-course you won’t be able to directly, cause your mom, who is also sucked into the stupid social expectation and drama…from noone that really even cares. So you try it for a year, do whatever and hold up your own. When your family goes out of the country leaving you behind like a piece of trash, you drop those cherished words that you’ve been saving ever since two months in, “Like you said before, this isn’t working, you should talk to the parents”. 

Fourth, only go for someone who you fell in love with because no matter how ludicrous and old fashion they may be, you’ll always find a way to love them. But, if its arranged, just don’t do it   you should know what you will be dealing with… a slow death everyday . Heck, even the immigration lady predicted “it doesn’t look like its working out”. Lets see if that holds true. 

Love Cyrus. 

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Happy Holidays

Its getting worse by the hour. And that’s why you ran away. Smart choice. Can’t wait to go to Chicago and never return. From 5 to 3…congrats and thanks for not being understanding, asking my side with patience, listening, cause no one is supposed to care or listen to her feelings. As he said, ‘you’re feelings dont matter’. Thanks for being bias, and to your instigator who apparently makes your life better every year, and ruins ours mine.

Man is ungrateful.

“And it is He who has brought you to life, then He will cause you to die, then bring you to life (again); most surety man is very ungrateful”(Quran, 22:66)

“Surat Al-‘Insan [verse 3] – Indeed, We guided him to the way, be he grateful or be he ungrateful.”

Its true. Take me for example. I mean I have gotten what ever I ever wanted, when I wanted it. My mom always reminds me of this. Its good, Alhumdulilah, but then if that thing that I wanted wasn’t good for me or even if it was, I feel like I become a monster [exaggerating?]. Well, not a ‘monster-monster’ [lol I only picture monsters that eat everything in their path], I mean like a confused-monster person. I guess I get so confused or just want to make things work. Whatever, this doesn’t have to make sense to anyone except me right now. Great, I sound selfish now.

I'm not a cat fanatic, [more of a rock person tbh] but this image will do.

I’m not a cat fanatic, [more of a rock person tbh] but this image will do.


All I have to do is pray and dua to Allah. I want to feel content.

Day #29

Love for the sake of Allah. It ends the argument and self loathing in your head all the time. Alhumdulilah. I’d explain more but, I am saving that for another post, Insha Allah. Dua for me!

“On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him), who said that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection: ‘Where are those who love one another through My glory? Today I shall give them shade in My shade, it being a day when there is no shade but My shade.'” [Bukhari (also by Malik).]”

That was the point. And aren’t you excited that its almost the 30th post!!! Better late than never, right? I don’t like quitting.

Salam. Peace!

Day #28

I am feeling out of place and not where I should be. This stinks.
Alhumdulilah, it will be a new day Insha Allah and an other opportunity for redemption [too serious?].

The point is, “Be positive, Allah paves the way for those who seek it. Get up and fix your self. Lazy bum. Wait thats not being positive. I mean, You can do it, you trooper, you. K. I’m done”.

Salam. Peace!

Day #27

Ok, so I’ve run into Eid Ul-Adha during my thirty days of Ramadan posting-conquest. So, Eid Mubarak!!! I wish I was with my family…or someone..anyone ( quo sad dialogue from The Lion King ). Alhumdulilah none the less. Dua for me!!
Read this…its only a paragraph, the rest is food. Hehe. (hopefully this isn’t considered a bribe)
http://www.islamicgarden.com/page1021.html

Salam. Peace!

Day #24

Don’t make decisions in haste. Tell everyone who is putting their input in the matter, the whole truth. Be patient. Otherwise you’d be regretting everything and have to make everything else work. In that case, make a lot of Dua. Hopefully, you are just being a brat. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what you did was right, except I can’t help it, but always see the good.

The point is keep yourself busy the rest of your life now
The point is who cares about what other people think
The point is you shuda been patient.
The point is start wishing for a miracle.
The point is Person.
The point is I’m a brat.

The point is, ‘Make Dua to Allah, be patient, and focus on the miserable four weeks of studying for exams and practicals, fool.

Salam. Peace!