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Hi! Happy holidays everyone!

I hope you all are doing well. You know, I was feeling pretty sad as usual, but then I went to check the usual status update from this fellow person and was quite surprised! Surprised, because it was one of the dumbest things one can post. My issue wasn’t the post but rather how this person would have the nerve to post it.

It went along the lines of how women are this but want this, blah blah blah. It was all good, but my biggest pet peeve is when men post things about females and their behavior. Like come on, mind your own business or keep it to your self, or something worth while, how about posting stuff about your own gender.

Even though this irritated me, it also bought a smile to my face. Rare, I know. It showed me how lucky I am I don’t have to deal with this nonsense. Alhumdulilah.

I will keep stalking people out of habit of course. But it will just be that. Have a good one friends! Dua for me 🙂

-eva626

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Hey, its a Tag post!

I wanted to do a tag post ’cause I felt like talking about myself. Not many people want to know stuff about me in real life now-a-days. Anyway, this is a random set of tag-questions I found:
Question 1: Do you have any pets ? Not at the moment. We used to have birds, which died. Then we had a cat; she ran away and got ran over. We used to have a dozen tiny fish, but someone fed them cheerios and they all died. I won a gold fish from a carnival, that gotten eaten by my brother’s larger gold fish. Then I colored a rock and that was my pet. I lost that too.
Question 2: Name three things that are physically close to you: Besides my laptop, I have my notes that I should be studying from, a couple of mugs, and a bunch of fun-size chocolate wrappers.
Question 3: What’s the weather like right now ? Its ok…sweater weather.
Questions 4: Do you drive ? If so, have you crashed? Nope, my permit even expired.
Question 5: What time did you wake up this morning ? I don’t remember.
Question 6: When was the last time you showered ? Yesterday
Question 7: What was the last movie that you saw ? Probably Paper Town…its overrated.
Question 8: What does your last text message say? “you would think they woulda read the previous emails first..ugh”
Question 9: What is your ringtone ? My phone is always on vibrate.
Question 10: Have you ever been to a different country? Just pakistan…layovers in turkey and somewhere else that doesn’t count. Blah
Question 11: Do you like sushi? No, the concept bothers me…raw meat is ew to me, also i don’t understand it…like wrapping rice around the meat/veg…why. Too much work and energy to look like a pretty princess. (no offense sushi lovers…you do you!)
Question 12: Where do you buy your groceries? I used to get them from pathmark or cvs in NY, now its always either Jewels, Target, or Traders Joe.
13: Have you ever taken any medication to help you fall asleep faster? Nah. I believe in imagining to free fall slowly into sleep.
Question 14: How many siblings do you have ? 4 and I love them so much!
Question 15: Do you have a desktop computer or a laptop?  Laptop
Question 16: How old will you be turning on your next birthday? ….none of your business
Question 17: Do you wear contacts or glasses ? both
Question 18: Do you colour your hair ? no…notice the spelling in this question.
Question 19: Tell me something you are planing to do today: Prob study and stuff…I have an exam in the A.M.
Question 20: When was the last time you cried?  I don’t remember
Question 21: What is your perfect pizza topping? Bell peppers
Question 22: Which do you prefer, hamburger or cheeseburger ? neither
Question 23: Have you ever had an all-nighter ? all the time. They’re the worst.
Question 24: What is your eye colour ? Brown…I know..very hot.
Question 25: Can you taste the difference between Pepsi and Coke? Not really.
I guess “that’s all folks”.
-Eva626

Stupid Culture

Don’t get me wrong, but being cultured is a part of becoming knowledgable and understanding different groups of people. Thats a great thing. Traveling and absorbing new cultures creates character, tolerance, and makes you kind toward humanity [at least thats the way I see it]. And then there is ‘following dumb cultural traditions’. Oh, this gets on my nerves! I hate it so much. If I know someone and I find out he or she follows a certain cultural tradition that disturbs peoples’ or an individual’s life including my own, I start disliking them slowly. A lot.

This is problematic. So, I turn to Islamic teachings and try to find out if Islam agrees on these traditions or its just stupidity passed on by generation to generation. The latter comes to conclusion most of the time. Then, I take a deep breath and confirm that I am not crazy.

One of my missions in life is to abolish the ‘people think this’ or ‘what will they say’ or ‘but thats how it is’ norm. And, I WILL NOT GIVE UP.

The hard part is when you want to potentially ‘like’ someone, but their thinking is stuck in that profound nonsense. Its so hard not to hurt their feelings. You have to take risks. I try little by little, but when they aren’t getting it, I have to talk about it face-to-my-intense-I-almost-hate-you-face.

Good luck to me.
I hope you all had a great ThanksGiving.

Guest Post #2

Hello people, today I have a very interesting article for you! One of my friends’ friend let me post up a post that she wrote for VerbalMuslim. She has about 6 articles written! Cool huh. Ok, so please read it ‘TILL THE END. Comments would be nice!

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In the name of God, the most Gracious, the most Compassionate
Before I start, I just want to say that reading the Quran with translation is one of the best things that has happened to me. All of us are proficient at reading the Arabic Quran, but not many of us take the time out to read the translation. I think it is so crucial for each and everyone of us to read the Quran with translation. On that note, let’s move on to my brief analysis of chapter 4, verse 34, Al-Nisa as stated below.

“Men are the maintainers of women because of that with which Allah has made some of them to excel the others and because of what they spend out of their property; the good women are therefore obedient, guarding the unseen as Allah has guarded; and (as to) those on whose part then if they obey you, do not seek a way against them; surely Allah is High, Great.” –Al-Nisa Verse 34

In this argument, the determinant point is the meaning of the verse 34. Why is this verse so controversial? It is an issue of debate because it goes against the ethics of the modern western society and the notion of human rights. Beating is considered a violent crime and violence is condemned in all religions. Islam is a religion of peace so then why is beating your spouse (under extreme circumstances) permissible? My initial reaction after reading the translation of the verse was, “what? Beat them? How can (Allah) who loves you seventy times more than your own mother sanction such a law?” Upon further scrutiny of the verse, I realized I didn’t comprehend the nature of the verse. What does it really mean? To understand this verse, I had to analyze the following line:

“Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made them to excel the others and because they spend out their property, the good women are therefore obedient.”

Let’s dissect this line by first identifying gender roles and various characteristics that apply to both men and women. Men are naturally strong individuals; they have the ability to generalize and conceptualize abstract ideas. Men, generally, perform better at perceptual ability tasks as compared to women. Women, on the other hand, are fragile, emotional and delicate by nature. Therefore, it is safe to say that Allah has given men authority over women because of the qualities they possess. These traits allow them to serve as guardians and protectors of their women. Now, this does not mean a woman cannot do what she wants. This is a huge misconception that westerners have of Muslim women. Yes, a man looks after his wife in all her affairs but this does not mean that the woman loses her identity nor has identity of her own. She has freewill to do whatever it is that she wants to do as long as it is lawful. She can take part in any profession; keeping in mind her lawful duties towards her husband and children.

But if a woman is disobedient, how do you treat her?
“You fear recalcitrance, admonish them, and leave them alone in the sleeping-places, and beat them;”

Let’s analyze the Arabic word for beating. The word ḍribūhunna” comes from the root word “daraba”, which means to hit, to strike, to set up, and to condemn. It also many times means to separate, to hide and to conceal. As many of you know that one Arabic word can have multiple meanings. The word “daraba” alone has over thirty different meanings, but in the Quran it is used at ten different places with ten different meanings. From this, one can see that each person that’s reading this verse reads according to his or her own understanding of the word. When I read the verse over with a better understanding of the word “daraba”, to me it meant that if a woman is rebellious and disobedient, she is (first) warned, (second) left alone, (third) separated from her husband (divorced, possibly).

Almost all the translations I came across had the word “beating.” Even with the word beating there, does it give a husband the authority to beat his wife viciously if she doesn’t listen to him? No. if one carefully examines Prophet Muhammad’s (pbuh) life and his conduct towards his wives, one will not find any Hadith that talks about the Prophet (pbuh) hitting any of his wives. Prophet (pbuh) said: “Woman is but a doll; he who takes it should not destroy it.” The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) used to wonder aloud: “How can you embrace the woman with a hand you had hit her with?” This goes to show that hitting your wife is not at all encouraged in Islam.

Many people will still come forward and say, “But it’s still there, the word beating is in the Quran” my line of defense is “well so is stoning women in the bible. Why does the bible say ‘…the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die.’- Deuteronomy 22:13-21. So if your wife is not found a virgin on the wedding night, she has to be stoned to death. So, before anyone jumps to say that Islam allows the beating of women, please explain to me the idea of stoning women in the bible.

In the end, I want to close off by saying that if certain individuals misuse this verse to misrepresent the religion, then it is the individual’s fault, not the religion’s. Islam is a beautiful religion and it does not de-humanize women in any way.  I am a Muslim woman and I have freewill. I have freedom and I walk shoulder to shoulder with men, proudly.

Allah knows best!
–  Sana Khawar

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I loved reading her post…it clears so many things. I think everyone should use the capability to think and research on any topic before making a judgement. Thanks for reading!

Feminism…ok, just shut up.

Not all females are feminists. I mean what is feminism anyway? Flinging your headscarfs out the window or worse…other things as was done in the 1960s in America. That is not feminism…sorry to burst your tiny bubble, but getting rid of pieces of clothing from your body only shows how dumb you are. You don’t respect yourself, how will this make others respect you? I mean come on, you are climbing back the “evolutionary” ladder…animals are unclothed, not humans. Clothes are made to cover us and protect our body parts, not show them off. Ew thats disgusting…ok I am done talking almost naked people.

Just know this, modesty = feminism. With modesty comes pulling out of current social pressures, for example Barbie. Hopefully now you understand. What if you WANT to show off to people, just so they can judge you even more…thats your problem. Good luck with living your life based on what others “impose” on you. There is more to life then just people (of course you are supposed to care about people, their feelings, possessions, ideas, thoughts, humanity, etc… but I mean about what people think about YOU in particular). Everyone is supposed to respect one another…its ethics and morals, no matter what religion or ideas you follow. Ok back to ‘feminism’.

I don’t believe in the type of Feminism that most people think about when they think of this term. They think its about Females ruling the world (that said, what makes this right and then what makes Men ruling the world wrong?…you want to dominate over the other gender…is that it?) This doesn’t make sense to me (not that it matters lol). I think that males and females have to work together in this world for the sake of humanity…even though today’s era is somewhat lost on common sense.

Honestly speaking, the most rights of women I have learned, read about, and am trying to follow is in Islam. Females were given the right to inheritance, work for their own satisfaction and self, vote, counted in socitey more than 1400 years ago by way of Islam. That is way before the US or anyother country or group sought existance of them. If you haven’t seen the video I shared in one of my posts, please do so, there is a segment where it touches the questions of rights of females in it. Females have been honored so much in Islam. This post can go on and on about this topic but I will cut it short and leave you with this picture below. Hopefully it will clear some misconceptions that society has fogged up and hid from your innocent minds:
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“The status of Women is so high in Islam, that even Men wish they were Women”

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