Day #22

When you feel a void in your heart, mind, and time…everything goes downhill. This just means you are away from Allah.

Salam. Peace!

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Private and Confidential

There was a point in my life where I had to change a few of my posts to private because I had tracked down a stalker. But I think I scared him/her away LOL. Sorry if you are still here. Now everything on this blog is public. I always had issues with sharing my personal life with people, be it family, friends, teachers, you guys, people on my Facebook and Twitter…yea. I love being anonymous here because at least I can share my general thoughts that might have to do something with the real me, without anyone actually knowing who I am. It might confuse some people because they don’t know my past or present. I am  fine with that. The main reason I blog is to waste time write out what I am thinking about without expecting advice from people. I just want someone to listen sometimes, even if it is you, who I don’t even know. Sometimes i feel that bloggers are more real than the real people I know.

Problems with sharing things with certain types of people:

-Parent: I tried this actually and sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn’t. The problem with this is that parents do care, a lot, but they care too much. They will make a big deal about it because they care for you A LOT. If you don’t like their response, you should just keep quiet and ponder on why they answered in such a way. There is always a good reason because they care A WHOLE LOT. lol. And so this leads them to tell the older child…aka my nemesis sister [LOL a bit exaggerated]; this makes me uncomfortable.

-Friend: I don’t have any friends.

LOL joking. This here is also a problem…well, it kinda depends on what kind of a friend they are. If they are the opposite gender type of friend, they will think you are crazy. Don’t share your girl feelings with guys and viceversa. Biology makes it so that the other wont really understand what you are feeling. Of course there are exceptions, but to stay on the safe side…I would pass. Also, I am a girl [haha I know] and telling friends who are females doesn’t help. They’d just nod and agree with you, which isn’t a good thing because you are still stuck in the dilemma.

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Sometimes I need to be alone with a mug of chai.

-Relative: Don’t do it, even if they are your cousins, because your story will definitely reach other people. First, it will be transferred to their close cousins, then their mom’s, who are most probably your mom’s sister, and then your mom will know…. None the less before your mom knows it will reach every Raza.com member around the world.

-Sibling: Some of us have really close ties with our siblings or a particular one, so its easy to spill the beans (purposely) and share your issues. But then there are families like mine, where we cringe when one of us shares their inner thoughts. The environment that some cultures have created is so messed up. You can’t share anything personal with your siblings. It might be because the headline will reach the parents or because you might just be too embarrassed, since your dealing with serious critics. But we trust our siblings more than others; the good thing here is that what happens in the neutral family stays inside. This might be the second best option after the last one below.

-Blog: Its simple, but sometimes indirect. Its kinda risky though, since if someone catches on, they might be offended. You shouldn’t want to offend people. So, think, think, write, re-read, think, then publish.

-The one you can always trust is God.

Some issues we over came.

Fasts are going well, thank God. But the thing that bothers me is how every Ramadan, the first few days, my family makes a huge amount of food! But then we always learn that it just is too much and we should care for the people who don’t have food to even do Suhoor (eating before putting a fast, before sunrise) or to break their fast during iftar. May Allah give them food and blessings. Ameen. Alhumdulilah, now we have utilized our time and amount of food being prepared. Now we are just eating some fruits, dates, with water. Also, my mom sometimes makes a small amount of pakorays [Pakora: made with a flour batter with masalas (spices), onions, or potatoes, or whatever else fried in oil], just to have a ‘feel’ of Ramadan. Yea, we are Paki. [Then after prayer we eat dinner and stuff.]

Another issue…was that we used to have a sleep difficulties (minor) in the beginning, since the nights are so short this year. After breaking our fast, going to the Majjid for Taraweh (late night prayer) there is only but a few hours to sleep. Then we have to wake up for Suhoor…before sunrise prayer, the time when we eat food before putting a fast. Now-a-days, schools are closed and no classes for us siblings, so we don’t sleep until Suhoor. We usually read Quran, or pray, or read more about Islam. Then, after doing Suhoor and praying morning prayer of Fajr, we hit the sack. It worked for me so far. But as the nights get longer during this month of Ramadan, I think we will be sleeping until Suhoor. Oh who cares about my sleep cycle. I made banana peanut butter cookies today!

My banana and peanut butter cookies! [simple recipe…just Google it]

Everyone loved them…or maybe it was because they were fasting all day. lol

Spicy topic on Matrimonial

Spicy, because desi food is spicy. I know, ‘Har Har Har’. Ok, never mind that. Its not a spicy topic the way I am posting it, but it is interesting. Right? Anyway, I have already talked about how hard it is to find someone to get married to, especially if you are brown and live in the US. I failed at being people’s matchmaker btw [read this post]. I tried my best, but in my defense, you shouldn’t say you want to get married if you really don’t! This puts all sorts of pressure, confusion, embarrassment, and stress on the matchmaker aka Eva626. Not fair. At all.

So moving on. I had made my mind a while back that I wasn’t going to post on this topic, but then I did put it on my Organized List of Future Posts earlier. Also, because I stumbled upon someone’s tumblr. A ‘tumblr’ is a fascinating type of site actually…there is always something interesting. So the person, who calls himself ‘American Brother‘ recently had some ‘tumblr posts’ (I don’t know what the ‘tumblr people’ call it) about marriage. It was interesting and I liked it so I thought back about my decision about posting this post and I really had to.

It was this:

A MUSLIM MAN PROPOSED TO A MUSLIM WOMAN

  • MUSLIMAH: me? If I do not know how to sew, or cook, or iron..  How am I going to marry you?
  • MAN: Do you know how to pray? Do you worship Allah Subhana wa ta’ala without associating with anyone? Do you wear hijab? Are you afraid of Allah?.
  • MUSLIMAH: Yes, I pray every day, I wear hijab, I love allah and no one else, I give charity whenever I can and the one I fear is Allah Subhana wa taa’ala.
  • MAN: *smiling* That’s enough for me, I want you to be the half of my Deen, not my maid 🙂 ♥

I thought it was just brilliant. Thank you tumblr-er the American Brother. Oh yea, being the curious blogger that I am, I asked him if he was married…to find out check out his site http://americanbrother.tumblr.com/.

I am not done yet…I was going to rant on and on and on about how it isn’t fair how some people set out to pick a person to marry based on the other’s ‘bio data’. URG, nvm. By the way, in search for matrimony is not a spicy topic after all.

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